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Are You an Extrovert, Introvert, or Ambivert? Here’s How To Tell

Natalie Daniels Dec 08, 2023

Have you ever been nervous about going to a party with people you don’t know? Or are you someone who thrives on meeting new people? Maybe it just depends on your mood. Whether you’re an introvert, extrovert, or ambivert, there are distinct characteristics that you’ll relate to. And, understanding those can be a useful tool for self-discovery and self-awareness.

We delve into all three personality types and offer tips on how to set boundaries and practice that all-important self-care.

 

How to Tell if You’re an Introvert, Extrovert, or Ambivert

You may already know instinctively whether you’re an introvert, extrovert, or have qualities of both—an ambivert, but if you’re undecided or just want to understand them better, here’s a rundown of each.

 

Signs You’re An Introvert

A person who identifies as an introvert usually feels more comfortable spending time alone or with one or two people versus a crowd. An introvert can feel tired after hanging out with people in a large group setting. They use their alone time to be reflective or daydream. Introverts also tend to be more reserved or inward focused, drawing energy from within. 

 

Signs You’re An Extrovert

An extrovert gains energy from hanging out with large groups and being around other people. Extroverted people love talking through situations with others and are comfortable striking up conversations with strangers, sharing their thoughts freely. Always seeking new experiences, an extrovert can feel tired after spending too much time alone with their own thoughts. 

 

Signs You’re An Ambivert

An ambivert is a mix of introverted and extroverted traits. They can enjoy socializing and alone time, and can switch from more introverted or extroverted behavior depending on the scenario. They’re good at striking that balance between being sociable and prioritizing their self-care. 

 

Still Unsure? Try this Quick Quiz

Answer these five questions to see if you’re an extrovert, introvert or ambivert.

        1. Do you like to spend a lot of time alone? 

If you answered YES, you fit the introvert type. If you answered NO, you could be an extrovert. If you feel both YES and NO, you’re likely to be an ambivert.

        2. Are you the life of the party?

If you answered YES, you fit the extrovert type. If you answered NO, you could be an introvert. If you answered SOMETIMES, you could be an ambivert.

        3. Do you have a small group of good friends or a big group of friends?

If your answer is small group of friends, you are probably an introvert. If your answer is big group of friends, you fit the extrovert type. If you sit right in the middle, you may be an ambivert.

        4. Do you always feel energized after a night out with friends?

If you answered YES, you are an extrovert. If you answered NO, you’re an introvert. If you answered IT DEPENDS, then you could be an ambivert.

        5. Do you feel extremely self-aware? 

If you answered YES, you fit the introvert type. If you said NO, you could be an extrovert. If you’re unsure, you might be an ambivert.

 

Tips For Introverts

1. The number one tip for all introverts is to be true to yourself. Introversion is a special quality. You have the power to deeply think about the world around you without the help of others. Use that to your advantage at work, school, or even if you’re at a social function. 

2. Try to strike a balance between your alone time and your time spent with others. Introverts can often spend too much time alone, which can cause feelings of loneliness. It can be easy to separate yourself from people when you need to conserve your energy. However, if you isolate for too long, it can be detrimental to your mental health. 

3. Prioritize spending time with friends and loved ones who care about you and have an energy you resonate with. You can even go out to a bookstore or library with a cute Restore Tote and get your alone time around people.

4. When you go out to a social setting like a party, make sure to know your own limits. If you notice yourself getting socially exhausted, it’s OK to leave for the night to recharge. Be kind to yourself.

 

Tips For Extroverts

1. If you’re an extrovert, ensure you’re also giving yourself time to be on your own. It’s good to be with your own thoughts once in a while. Spend some time journaling, reading a book, or listening to music. Make sure you’re doing a digital detox in these moments so that you can focus on yourself.

2. Occasionally, extroverts can dominate a conversation, which can be great in some situations and not in others. While it’s important to share your thoughts, make sure you’re being empathetic to those around you, by listening, asking questions, and letting other people speak. 

3. Even extroverts can feel lonely whether it’s because you live alone or far away from friends and family. If this is causing your mental health to suffer, you can join a gym or clubs. This way, you’ll meet people with similar interests.

4. Extroverts can often get overwhelmed by too many plans and overbooking themselves. Set boundaries with how many nights a week you’re going out and socializing, and schedule in plenty of downtime too. 

 

Tips for Ambiverts

1. As an ambivert, you enjoy a balance of socialization and alone time. Be careful to set boundaries with yourself and other people. Whatever your energy level is, you can use the same steps to appease your introvert and extrovert side. 

2. Try new things. Being an ambivert you have that unique opportunity to use the best of both personality types, so play it to your advantage and push yourself out of your comfort zone. You never know what new experiences are out there waiting for you.

3. Think about your energy levels. Spend time with people and on projects that energize you. Avoid giving too much of your time or energy to things you don’t get anything back from.

4. Help others. Ambiverts can be great empaths as they can see things from both sides. Support the introvert and extrovert loved ones in your life wherever you can. 

 

It can be daunting to figure out social situations, especially if you don’t know what makes you comfortable. Now you know whether you’re an extrovert, introvert, or ambivert, try doing more research for further tools and tips to help you stay balanced and play to your strengths.